I am positive about my body AND I’m actively trying to lose weight. I don’t use the phrase ‘body positivity’ specifically because there are so many different definitions of this and people get very wound up about what qualifies as body positivity and whether you are ‘truly’ body positive.
In my view, if you are confident and happy within yourself and your body then you are positive about your body, and if you are respectful, accepting, compassionate and kind to others regardless of their body size then this is more than good enough.
Worth does not come from body size
I think that people can be truly beautiful and valuable regardless of their body size or shape. We are all different and that in itself is such a beautiful thing. Someone’s worth doesn’t come from their size, nor does it come from what other people think of them or whether other people find them attractive.
I am fat and that’s ok
I am very overweight, obese, fat, however you would like to put it. That’s not me talking down about myself, it’s simply a fact. This is for all sorts of reasons, including side effects
from medications; physical issues with mobility that stop me exercising the way I would like and comfort eating when I am in a depressive episode as a coping mechanism. However, I am very happy in myself, in the way I look and in my body.
Accepting myself for who I am
I don’t think badly of myself because I am overweight, I don’t feel ugly or uncomfortable in my looks. I don’t try to hide the fact that I am fat in the way I dress or stick to certain rules about how fat women should dress: I wear what I like, what I’m comfortable in and what makes me feel good. I think that I am beautiful in both appearances and in the person I am. That’s not me being oblivious to my size or me being conceited or vain, I just accept myself for who I am and I care very little about what others think of me in that regard.
Improving my health
At the same time, I am aware that my size isn’t a healthy option for me, as I have arthritis in my ankles and other joints and the weight puts more strain on this area. It also causes me other health issues and gives me more complications and could increase the likelihood of things getting worse for me in regards to my health in the future, so I am trying to do something about it. I am trying to lose weight.
Again I want to emphasise here, that this is not because I hate how my body looks, it’s because I have enough health problems to be dealing with from my chronic illnesses that there’s nothing I can do about, and if there is something I can do to improve my life, then I am going to try my best to change things for the better.
I am positive about my body
I am positive about my body, and I also want to try and lose weight. These things ARE able to go hand in hand. I will love my body at whatever size I am, whether it’s the size I am now, bigger than I am or smaller and lighter than I am. My value does not come from the size of my body, it comes from who I am.
I am positive about my body.